Dear Results.. Mama's baby, Daddy's maybe?

2/05/2020 12:31:00 PM

Dear Results, 

I hope this email reaches you and that you're able to help me. I'm a 28 year old traveling welder. I've been with my high school sweetheart off and on since we graduated. Although never married, we DO have 2 beautiful children together. Our daughter was born while I was finishing my freshman year in college. My significant other has been with me through all of my ups and downs and I could never repay her for what she does for our children. 

As I mentioned, I'm a traveling welder. I go all over the country with my position and I get paid very well for what I do. Fast forward, my son was born 2 years ago. I understand that a child has to grow into their features. I also understand that the bond the mother shares with their child is different from that of the father. There's just something in my gut that tells me he and I do not share the same DNA... long story short, I got a paternity test done on him and received the "results" (lol, see what I did there? ) but I haven't opened them quite yet. A part of me wants to know but the other part of me KNOWS that I'll be crushed if it doesn't go in my favor. Oh, did I mention I haven't said a word of this to my significant other? Any insight on this troubling issue would allow me to sleep at night. 

Sincerely, 

Mama's baby, Daddy's maybe? 


Dear Mama's baby, daddy's maybe?,

Greetings beloved! Your email reached me safe and sound and I thank you for writing in and trusting my insight. It sounds like you really love your significant other and you're working to build a foundation fit your family. For that, I commend you!!!  There aren't many stand up guys left, so it warmed my heart to see you guys aren't extinct just yet, lol! 

There are a couple of things that stick out in your story. 
*Traveling Welder (not home often, schedule frequently changes)
*Together since high school ( dating 10+ years, not married)
*2 children
*Communication (or lack thereof)
*unopened paternity results

There's no indicator or particular order to the flags that stuck out in your letter. I also understand that with time being limited you probably weren't able to include all things going on so that I may get a more clear perspective. You have some decisions to make beloved. You have to be prepared for whatever that paper says when/ if you decide to open it. Your life as you know it will never be the same. It sounds like before you do that, you and your significant other need to sit down and have a REAL conversation. While you're out traveling for work, are you sure she's not getting her own personal work done? One thing's for sure and two things for certain... your intuition (gut feeling) will never steer you wrong and whatever is done in the dark shall come to the light. You have some harsh realities that will birth themselves in the event your son is not biologically yours. Are you prepared for what comes next? How will your household flow after? It's not just you that will be affected by what that paper says. What about your daughter? How will this affect her? As I advise anyone that I speak with, I'm not a licensed therapist. I do feel in this case, as a family you all should go and talk this out. The other option is once you speak with your significant other, if you feel in your heart that she wasn't unfaithful then burn that paper and go on with your life. If you're not interested in getting married, then continue to co parent as both of the children need you both! If I can be of any further assistance, you know how to reach me! AskResultsJohnson@gmail.com 

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